Key Takeaway
Separation can shake your confidence and self esteem. It’s worth taking the time to figure out who you are outside of your previous relationship.
Strategies
Get creative
Writing or journaling or even doodling or making art can be a therapeutic way to process emotions and gain clarity. Participate in cultural activities such as beading, carving, ribbon skirt and drum making. These can be both creative and physically grounding.
Do what you love and reconnect with yourself
Feeling like we are good at something can give us confidence to get through other challenges in our lives and helps us figure out who we are. Dive deep into hobbies or master a new skill!
Practice positive self-talk
Positive affirmations can help reshape your thought patterns. "I choose to be happy and hopeful even though it seems difficult right now."
Focus on the future
Think of three things you are looking forward to. Set a goal for today, this week, this month and this year. This can help you get out of dwelling on the past and give you hope for the future.
Get involved
Get involved in your community and give back to others. Connecting with our culture and community makes us feel like we belong to something bigger than ourselves. The feeling of giving back plus the social connection can help counter the impacts of stress, anger and anxiety.
Take a social media break
Social media can connect us but it can also make us feel bad about ourselves. It hurts to compare ourselves to others when we are going through hard times. Especially when what people post is idealized and not always true to reality. Try taking a break.
Embrace your spirituality
It can provide a sense of comfort, support, and inner strength. This looks different for different people. For some it may be embracing ceremonial practices, connecting with culture and Ancestors, or seeking guidance from a faith community. For others it may look more like volunteering, meditating or communing with nature.
Get physical
Channeling your energy into positive outlets such as sports, exercise, and engaging in physical activities can provide a constructive way to get emotions out. Get out in nature if you can.