Key Takeaway
Having connections with others allows you to feel stronger and more resilient.
It's important for you to lean on your friends, your support network and your community to feel connected.
Spend time with people that make you feel good about yourself.
Not everyone has extensive networks of friends and family which can make going through a separation even more isolating. If you need to build up your support system, think of joining local community support groups, starting a new hobby or connecting with your local faith or cultural group.
Strategies
Talk it out
It's important to acknowledge and share your emotions. Talk to someone you trust in your support system—a friend, an Elder or Knowledge Keeper, a family member (though not your children) or someone in your community.
Set boundaries
Cut back on extra responsibilities you don't actually need to do, as well as on people and things that do not contribute positively to your well-being. Get comfortable saying “no”!
Reach Out
Check-in with other people you know who have gone through similar situations, this will help you to normalize your situation and make you feel less isolated. Seek professional help to deal with emotions if you can. Some counsellors provide low cost options so don’t rule it out!
Seek positive people
Spend time with people who love you and who help you feel energized and positive. Let people around you know your needs, triggers and things that are making you feel uneasy.
Strategically step back
Avoid people who make you feel drained, are judgmental, negative, or who aren’t good listeners. Limit your exposure to conflict with your child’s other parent, or relationships that leave you feeling drained. You need to focus on positively moving forward.
Find others in similar situations
Sharing your experiences with friends who may have gone through similar situations can provide a sense of understanding and support.
Wellness
If you are feeling really isolated and down don’t be afraid to seek professional support. Separation is really hard but you do not have to cope on your own! See Nobody’s Perfect for parenting support groups and Mental Health Support: Get Help for counselling services near you.