How you feel

Anger

Once the shock begins to fade, you might feel really angry, especially at your parents—for causing this to happen, for not working hard enough to prevent it, for letting you down.  After all, you didn't ask for this!

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that everyone experiences sometimes.  Anger only becomes unhealthy when you express it in ways that hurt yourself or others, or when you don't express it at all.

To put it another way, anger itself isn't good or bad; it is the way you handle your anger that can have a good or bad result. And you can choose how to handle your anger.  Unfortunately, a lot of people have a hard time handling their anger, because they haven't been taught how.